People never realize how tough a situation really is until they experience it themselves. To be honest, my trip to America has shocked me more than I had expected. To my classmates in Oral Presentation, the differences I mentioned days earlier were merely jest; I assume you wouldn’t have taken them seriously anyways.
I remember a couple of weeks ago when I attended the CIP graduation program, a classmate of mine cried because of the discrepancy she felt between her expected life in BU and reality. The discrepancy does not lie in cultural aspect––as much as you would think that is––it actually has something to do with our mentalities.
I don’t know about international students from other countries, but for us, whoever made it this far has a 90% chance that he/she rarely, if not never, encountered major frustrations or, to be a little more specific, failures of any kind. Two things here, (1)we have great GPA and experiences in our major-related fields, otherwise BU wouldn’t have admitted us in the first place. Which means almost all of us were academically successful back in China. (2)Our families are able to pay for the enormous amount of tuition. I guess that is self-explanatory––we lived well-off. So it’s hard to imagine what failures we could possibly have had when everything mattered in Chinese society, we have already got them.
Back to my weeping classmate situation. I guess consciously or unconsciously, we tend to believe that everything has to go well, it is just the way that everything had been in the past. So we automatically assume everything from now on is supposed to follow that pattern. If our lives were a video game, we have been playing easy or intermediate mode before BU, and now we are playing hell hard mode. To my best knowledge, none of us have depicted the life here accurately before coming here. All we had was fragment of a full picture. In fact, we were so infatuated with the “ultimate” goal of coming here that we forgot what it actually means to be here when we do. The instance she cried, I started to compare us with cats.
The toughest cat in the neighborhood is watching a TV program featuring a world of tigers. These big cats look almost the same from TV with this badass neighbor cat, from a certain angle, they even look cute. But when this badass cat takes a trip to the zoo, it can’t even perform a decent high-five with the tiger, to be fair, every high-five consists of the possibility of a tragic fatality––cat pulp.
If you are a Chinese student driving a Lamborghini, then consider this piece of writing garbage. To the rest of us, we need to get used to the fact that the game has changed, deal with not being the best anymore, because as of the moment we landed, we have started from square one. You know what, square minus one to be accurate.